A power greater than myself


23 days sober, and 6 days in full withdrawal. WOOHOO.

I slept well last night and slept in, didn’t wake up in the middle of the night and only got up at 7:30 am. it was good to have that amount of rest. I said hello to my host who had not gone on their trip yet, had coffee and chatted for a bit. I got a text from my wife stating that she had a really disrupted night and she needs me to come over to help with the kids for a couple of hours so she can catch up on her sleep. I said yes. the place I am staying at is 10 minutes away from home.

I went home, played with the kids for a bit while she rested. it was fun. she woke up refreshed and rested and was grateful for my help. soon after I got back to my friend’s place. my host was at the final bits of packing and they left shortly after.

I spent a bit of time on my PC looking for the NA Step working guide. I am working the steps now through the NA step questions. it is awesome. I had finished step one I think about a week ago. today I started Step two “Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity” I answered the first couple of questions and it was a very helpful reminder that while this sucks, I can’t do it, someone else can.

I had a short nap, had a friend come over for a catch up and a bit of a walk, I had a shower, caught up with another friend over a phone call and then had my coaching session.

In my coaching session we spoke about my plan to come out. my coach was very loving and supportive. she will help me through the process. I have started making it known to people.

I got back home, checked on the dog, then drove out to grab a meal (drive through) and got home, watched a few videos on vulnerability by Rene Brown. powerful stuff.

I am going to bed sober. need to say my prayers. 🙂

Another day has come and gone


My wife had one of the girls sleeping with her. I slep a bit later than I should last night. Woke up to find that my other girl had a fever and had caught cold. I managed to hold her close and help her sleep an it longer. Then got up, had a bit of breakfast and I spent time with my son and my daughter. Managed to put the little girl for a nap. Then played snakes and ladders with my sons and flew paper planes. It was lots of fun. 

My wife arrived with our middle daughter. I started packing as … well a bit of background…. It is school holidays and the kids are home full time. So my wife and I (we are separated at the moment and she lives elsewhere and I have the kids with me) anyway my wife and I agreed she’ll have them one week and I will have the other till the end of the school break. Today is the start of her week. 

So I packed, said goodbye to the kids and hit the road. I am house sitting at a friend’s place. I went first to pick a friend up from the airport and hand out with her and show her the city. We had a simple meal together and then eventually sent her home to where she is staying. 

I dropped off by home to pick up some items I forgot. The two older kids were still up so I gave them long hugs and head out. Hung out with my friend and her partner and chatted for a bit.  Now I am lying on a bed in my sleeping bag. Will say a prayer after posting this and go to sleep. 

22 days sober 5 days full withdrawal 

A gathering of friends 


With the help of my father I managed to sleep in a bit. He looked after the children and fed them breakfast. We did a bit of clean up a bit of play a bit of tv and some cooking. We were invited to a Christmas party and we brought a dish. It was a lovely gathering. And a huge amount of food. I ate too much my tummy is sticking out. 

Now I need to go shower, brush teeth, say my prayers and go to bed. Day four of full withdrawal almost ending and I am still sober. 

I am probably in a total food addiction relapse but will deal with that later. 

Parenting helps


It was Saturday here. It is also Christmas Eve. I had the girls with me all morning. Did some cleaning fed the girls lunch. Put the little one down for a nap. My wife brought my our son home after lunch. I took him and his sister to go the pool but they closed early. We want to the mall instead. Some shopping and playing then home for dinner and more playing an then 2 hours of attempting to put them to sleep. I think I started too early. 

I was doing okay all day. The lengthy bedtime routine got on my nerves a bit but otherwise still happy and sober. Being a parent keeps me in check. 

Third day of full withdrawal, check!! 

Second day and counting. 


So I’ve been sober for roughly 18 days today and in full withdrawal for two days. Today was meh I wasn’t inspired work wise I really want to find another job. 

Summary of the day. I went to work, had a few outreach calls, spoke to my mom and sis over the phone did some more work. I went home early, had a short argument with my dad played with the kids. Had dinner. Played some more. Put two of my kids to sleep as the eldest when to spend the night with his mom. Had another argument with my dad. Watched tv and over ate. Or binge ate. 

But hey I am sober another day. 

You again


I decided today 22/12/2016 to start a period of withdrawal and get back to recovery. I really don’t want to do this but hey first day just passed. 

Maybe short daily posts to check in will be beneficial for me. I will do them from my phone before I go to bed. Nothing fancy. 

Summary of the day is as follows. Rough night with one of my kids. Okay day at work. A couple of outreach calls. Picked the keys to the house I am sitting next week. Had dinner at home. Went to a SLAA meeting. 

Now I will shower, say some prayers, message some recovery partner and go to bed. 

Good night 

Did you miss me


Part of me is hoping that I was missed and that same part of me was hoping that those who missed me would right and check on me. I have done that to other addicts i used to follow. I would send them asking how they’ve been if they hadn’t posted for longer than usual. at the time, i was not expecting anything in return. I wasn’t thinking that i should do this so that when i am in their shoes someone would check on me. it was done with pure motive to genuinely check on them. So I guess I was hoping for the likes of me out there to get in touch.

but anyway. I am here. I am still working on my imperfect recovery. as I type these lines, i have been 2 weeks Sober. Yeah I had another slip.

I am going through so much at the moment. My wife and I are discussing separation, believe it or not, i am the one instigating it. My employer is laying me off. I am feeling a little overwhelmed and stressed. the good news is, i know it will pass. I know it will all turn out better soon enough. I still have to feel my feelings though.

I have been busy lately and will continue to be. so not sure when is the next time i will be posting something, but hey. get in touch between now and my next post.